We are gathered here today in the sight of God to join this man, and this woman in holy matrimony. Not to be entered into lightly, holy matrimony should be entered into solemnly and with reverence and honor. Into this holy agreement these two persons come together to be joined. If any person here can show cause why these two people should not be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace.
Marriage is a sacred union between husband and wife and shall remain unbroken. It is the basis of a stable and loving relationship and is a joining of two hearts, bodies and souls. The husband and wife are there to support one another and provide love and care in times of joy and times of adversity.
We are all here today to witness the joining in wedded bliss of (Groom’s Name) and (Bride’s Name.) This joyous day celebrates the commitment and love with which (Groom’s Name) and (Bride’s Name) start their lives together. Through God, you are joined together in the most holy of bonds. Who gives this woman in holy matrimony to this man?
These are traditional wedding vows. Would it be blasphemous of me to announce that I’m married to Jesus? My vows to God and Jesus go something like this:
Dear family and friends,
We are gathered here in the presence of God, to witness the holy union of Mia and Jesus Christ. This is a commitment that should never be taken lightly, but should always be held in reverence and a manner that is pleasing to our Heavenly Father.
Repeat after me…
I, Mia, take thee Jesus to be my heavenly partner in life. I will honor and obey Your word, dwelling on all that You speak to my heart. I will always come to You in prayer, sharing my struggles, asking for Your guidance, and seeking You first when I have anything pressing on my heart. I will rejoice when my earthly life is good and praise You when it is difficult. I promise to be patience, kind, loving, and always look to You as my standard for living. I know that I have a purpose and You give me hope for the future. I promise to love You and place You first in all areas of my life.
Not bad. It’s where my heart is and my faith grows daily. Faith is a powerful thing and I know I only need it to be the size of a mustard seed to move mountains.
“So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” – Matthew 19:6
I asked Jesus to come into my heart and save me many years ago. While I said that prayer of gratitude for the atonement. I still behaved in a manner that was displeasing to God. Today’s blog is about recommitting myself to God. I haven’t written much in the past week or so, but it’s okay. Spending time with God and Jesus is my priority. I wake up in the morning and kneel beside my bed, praying before I’ve even considered going to the bathroom. That’s commitment, yo!
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24
The Holy Spirit is in me. It prompts me when I need to seek God’s Word and guidance. It’s there when I need comforting. It is present when I need to escape any situation that is detrimental to my relationship with my Heavenly Father. I feel complete now. Like a whole person.
That doesn’t mean I don’t want to be married while living in this earthly existence. I would love to be married. There is some sort of peace in it. Security, even. I want to come home and kiss my husband, wake up in the morning and kiss him again. In the movie, Sweet Home Alabama, Dakota Fanning plays a younger version of Reese Witherspoon’s character. She asks the boy, “Why do you want to marry me anyhow?” He replies, “So I can kiss you any time I want.” That’s only part of what I want. I want the person who is committed to me; who wants me as much as I want him. Someone who is willing to do 25 to life with me. I have no idea how much time I have on this planet. Neither does anyone else. I just want to spend it with someone who values and appreciates the woman that I am just as much as I appreciate the man he is.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled,” – Hebrews 13:4
Nothing is worse than being cheated on. It left me feeling like I wasn’t good enough as a wife. Then, as the affairs continued, I felt that I wasn’t even good enough as a person. I forgave him. I’d forgive the next guy too. That doesn’t mean I can forget the feelings of worthlessness that were created. I’m not perfect. I’m COMPLETE.
“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33
I respected my husband. In fact, I’ve respected all the men in my life. There was truly no reason not to, even when I didn’t agree with certain things. I trust implicitly too, until I’m given a reason not to trust. Yes, I’m definitely gullible and naive when it comes to men and relationships. It’s not fair. It’s not right for me to judge someone on their past. I want my husband to treat me as well as I treat him. I don’t need material things. I don’t need a lot of money. I’ve never been that way. I need security and comfort. I’m happiest with a home-cooked meal, a movie on the TV, and snuggling on the couch.
I want a partner in life. Someone who loves God more than he loves me. Someone who wants my affection and passion. Someone who will let me love him through the darkness of time as well as the bright sunshine of day. Someone who laughs when I’m being goofy and holds me when I melt down. There’s a whole list but the most important thing is that whomever he is, he needs to love God first.
“We love because he first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19
Until God tells me that He has someone for me, I’m married to Jesus! And impatiently patiently waiting as God makes me into the woman He wants me to be.